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During COVID, something became impossible to ignore. Every month, my mood would shift. Not randomly. Not unpredictably. Not for weeks at a time. It happened around my cycle. I experienced: Intense emotional reactivity Brain fog that felt neurological Deep fatigue Irritability that did not feel like “me” And then — when my period arrived — it would lift. I functioned well outside of that window. I worked. I achieved. I built. I planned. Inside that window, my nervous system fe

If you had asked me years ago whether I believed in ADHD, I might have hesitated. Not because I did not believe in struggle. Not because I did not see suffering. But because I was raised in systems cultural, medical, academic where ADHD was framed as overdiagnosis, laziness, or simply needing more discipline. I grew up in a BIPOC community shaped by resilience, survival, migration, and high expectations. We did not talk about neurodivergence. We talked about achievement. We t

When family life feels urgent all the time! Some parents do not feel “stressed” in a dramatic way. They feel on . Always moving. Always managing. Always thinking three steps ahead. The day runs on urgency. Getting through the routine becomes the goal. In that pressure, parenting can start to look like this: Hurry up. We do not have time. Just do what I said. Stop crying. You are fine. Not because you do not care, but because everything feels like it has to be handled right no

Tamil love scripts, Western sex scripts, and what happens when your body is caught between both If you grew up Tamil in Canada, you already know the moment. A kiss scene comes on. Everyone suddenly becomes intensely interested in the remote control. Someone coughs like they are auditioning for a lead role. And the fast forward button gets pressed so quickly it deserves its own award. I still remember how normal that felt. The message was subtle but loud. Love was allowed. Lon

Therapy sounds simple on paper. You sit down. You talk about feelings. You learn coping tools. You heal. But when you are first gen, culturally different, and raised by parents who do not speak English, therapy can feel like learning a whole new language while also translating your entire life. Sometimes you show up wanting to talk about anxiety, and you realize you are carrying something bigger. You are carrying the interpreter role you never applied for. You are carrying th

This is a Storytime, but it is also a reality check. Details are blended and changed to protect privacy. What matters here is the pattern, because it shows up more often than many clinicians want to admit. A client comes in and says something like this: My coworkers are being mean. They scoff when I talk. They exchange looks. They question my competence in a way they do not do to others. I feel it in the room before anyone says anything. I think it might be racism. Two paths

Most New Year’s resolutions are not really goals. They are a burst of pressure dressed up as motivation. Sustainable growth looks different.